A clergyman called Henry Ward Beecher has once said that, “The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother." This quotation shows the importance of a husband in the life of his wife and children. In other words, if a mother is the tender creature, the father is the role model, the man the boys want to be like and the girls want to marry someone who is his exact copy. This means that a father’s presence in the life of his children is crucial. Still, his absence can be pretty destructive, thus resulting in the “fatherless syndrome”. The absence of a father in the life of his children influences their lives negatively by preventing them from becoming healthy individuals emotionally and depriving them of a set of attributes mothers cannot provide and resulting in various problems.
When no father is evident in his children’s life, the children lose the emotional health that psychologists, psychiatrists and social workers seem to be discussing endlessly. Rebecca Hagelin explains that although fathers are shown in books and movies as abusers, they assume an inimitable role by providing their family with tenderness and solidity. In David Popenoe’s opinion, men who grow without fathers turn hostile and immoral. This is due to the fact that they have no role model to help them throughout their lives. As it comes to girls, the absence of a fatherly figure will make them reach a stage where they will think they are not deserving of love and affection because no strong male figure showed them the opposite. Moreover, Popenoe explains that most fatherless young men might put an end to their life or pass away due to sickness.
In addition to that, Elizabeth Fox-Genovese of National Review believes that no man will be able to take care of the kids and be loyal to them except the biological father.
The absence of a fatherly figure deprives children from a set of attributes mothers cannot provide. According to Rex McCan’s study entitled On their own: Boys growing up underfathered and mentioned by Steven Svoboda, no matter what the reason of the father’s absence is, the children are deeply influenced. McCan goes further to say that boys need their fathers around so that they give them the landmarks for their own personal development. The study explains how boys usually look up to their fathers and wish to spend time with them to learn how to become men like their fathers. In other words, when there is no father in the house, there is no one to teach the sons about manhood. On the other hand, Popenoe considers that daughters discover that they have no sense of their own femininity when their fathers are not in the picture. Also, sons cannot have the same type of relationship with their fathers as the one they have with their mothers.
The absence of a fatherly figure deprives children from a set of attributes mothers cannot provide. According to Rex McCan’s study entitled On their own: Boys growing up underfathered and mentioned by Steven Svoboda, no matter what the reason of the father’s absence is, the children are deeply influenced. McCan goes further to say that boys need their fathers around so that they give them the landmarks for their own personal development. The study explains how boys usually look up to their fathers and wish to spend time with them to learn how to become men like their fathers. In other words, when there is no father in the house, there is no one to teach the sons about manhood. On the other hand, Popenoe considers that daughters discover that they have no sense of their own femininity when their fathers are not in the picture. Also, sons cannot have the same type of relationship with their fathers as the one they have with their mothers.
That is, as it comes to him, fathers and mothers differ in their ways of parenting.
When there is no father around, children face major problems. As it comes to the National Institute of Health, teenagers whose fathers are absent become dejected compared to teenagers whose fathers play an important role in their lives. Rebecca Hagelin says that the study did not stop there but went further to say that these teenagers have a big possibility as it comes to getting expelled from school or missing classes. Features in their lives include drug, alcohol abuse and gambling in addition to premarital sex and engaging in misconduct. Daughters usually end up losing their virginity and mistrusting guys. That is, their lives go down the drain especially when they turn into criminals and thieves according to Hagelin.
When there is no father around, children face major problems. As it comes to the National Institute of Health, teenagers whose fathers are absent become dejected compared to teenagers whose fathers play an important role in their lives. Rebecca Hagelin says that the study did not stop there but went further to say that these teenagers have a big possibility as it comes to getting expelled from school or missing classes. Features in their lives include drug, alcohol abuse and gambling in addition to premarital sex and engaging in misconduct. Daughters usually end up losing their virginity and mistrusting guys. That is, their lives go down the drain especially when they turn into criminals and thieves according to Hagelin.
The fathers’ absence can cause a deep impact on children, whether emotional-wise or attribute wise and it can lead to a set of problems. Fathers are, after all, an essential component of the life of children. They instill the real meaning of masculinity in the blood of their sons and show their daughters that they are worthy of every bit of affection. Life can be really hard in the absence of the father, especially when children require his presence in their lives as much as they need water to be alive. The “fatherless syndrome” is most probably one of the syndromes doctors cannot cure.
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